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Wondering if estranged husband is recording her amid divorce

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

Q. My husband refuses to move out of our house while the divorce is pending even though he has plenty of money and his sister has an empty in-law suite on her house 10 minutes away.  My lawyer says I don’t have grounds to get him kicked out.  So, I moved to our finished basement where we have an old au pair suite.  It is not ideal, but he is very controlling and verbally abusive, and I cannot take living in the main house with him.Recently I have begun to suspect that my husband has placed cameras in the basement.  He has made comments about my workouts (our home gym is in the basement) and he seems to know what I am talking to my lawyer about.  I was deposed and he asked me all kinds of questions about things that he could not know if he wasn’t listening.My lawyer is taking his deposition soon.  Should we confront him?  I know its not OK to record me without my knowledge, but I don’t know what I can do to prevent it.  I feel really violated.A. First, stop talking to your lawyer fro...

First time at the office? Here’s what to know

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

Q. I am starting my first internship in person in two weeks. My other internships were all virtual. I’ve never been in an office before — what do I need to know?A. Congrats on your first in-person internship! There are several things to keep top of mind:Build relationships. Although you may have already done this in previous internships through a screen, nothing can replace being in person and making eye contact well, eye to eye (instead of eye to screen to eye).Arrive on time (better yet, show up a little early), roll up your sleeves, demonstrate a can do attitude. Ask questions, observe, listen, pay attention.Be proactive — ask your boss to lunch or coffee. Connect with colleagues, both with fellow interns and with other people in your department and other departments you interact with.Keep in mind even if you don’t love what you do that’s OK — part of the internship experience involves figuring out what types of jobs and companies (and their cu...

Active Zachary has a great imagination

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

Zachary is a young, inquisitive boy. He is well-mannered and on the quieter side but is still very curious and asks questions about how things work. Zachary enjoys playing with LEGOs, building things, and playing video games. He loves to spend time outside and be active. Swimming and baseball are some of his favorite activities.Zachary is able to build relationships with others, particularly caregivers, and is described as being sensitive and kind to others. Academically, Zachary is on target and in elementary school. He is working on social skills at school and has done well in his class. Zachary responds well to words of encouragement and praise. He recently expressed that he would like to be an environmental scientist when he grows up.Zachary would do well in a family of any constellation, with or without older children in the home. A family for Zachary should be open to helping him maintain a relationship with his younger sister and birth parents. A home that can provide a struc...

What parents need to know about naloxone for opioid overdose

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

An overdose crisis is affecting children, adolescents and adults across the United States. Most drug overdoses in young people are caused by opioids, and specifically, fentanyl.Opioids have long been used medically to treat pain. But highly potent opioids like fentanyl, which is rampant throughout the illicit drug market, are now the leading cause of overdose deaths across all ages, including children and adolescents.If someone in your home takes opioids for any reason, you should carry naloxone and keep it in your home in case of emergencies (just like a fire extinguisher). Naloxone is a lifesaving medication that can reverse an opioid overdose in minutes.It’s available as a nasal spray that is easy to administer.Naloxone is recommended for anyone who:Uses opioids, including illicit opioids such as heroin or fentanyl, or prescribed opioid medications in a way their doctor did not intendHas a substance use disorder (“addiction”)Lives with someone who uses opioids i...

Nantucket Book Festival a must for fans of literature and island fun

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

I have an idea for the perfect book club: It’s held in a beach town, covers topics diverse as the literary world itself. It’s accessible – and free. And some of the world’s most beloved authors join in.Such a literary treat exists, thanks to the Nantucket Book Festival, now in its 11th year.From June 15-18, the Festival will bring you up close with famed writers like Sebastian Junger, Tracy Kidder, Jodi Picoult, Luke Russert and more.You’ll find famed Pulitzer Prize winners and finalists, National Book Award winners and finalists and New York Times bestsellers –  ready to chat all things literary with you at the beach, the bar, or elsewhere on the island.And yes, it’s pretty much free. While some of the events do require a ticket, the vast majority of talks and events are completely free, something the festival takes great pride in.That means you can grab a hotel room or home rental – or even just hop the easy to take Hy Line Ferry back and forth for a ...

Documentary puts spotlight on cultural phenom of ‘Midnight Cowboy’

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

Award-winning documentarian Nancy Buirski looks back to see what combusted to make the now-classic 1969 Oscar-winning Best Picture “Midnight Cowboy,” still the only X-rated movie to win that top prize.“My vision wasn’t about the making of ‘Midnight Cowboy,’ it was about the moment of ‘Midnight Cowboy,’” Buirski said in a phone interview.Her “Desperate Souls, Dark City and the Making of Midnight Cowboy,” “looks at the film in the context of the time. Because the film has been successful and continues to resonate, it tries to help us understand why it does — the culture, the politics and all of that.” It screens in as part of the Provincetown International Film Festival Thursday.“Midnight Cowboy” was wild stuff in the anti-authoritarian ‘60s where feminism, gay, civil rights and anti-Vietnam War protests were changing the landscape.  The film’s mix of sex, drugs and rock ‘n roll follows the friendship between naïve Texan Joe Buck (Jon Voight in a star-making performa...

Graham: SPLC labels Moms for Liberty a hate group

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

When Republican presidential candidates like Ron DeSantis and Donald Trump appear at the Moms for Liberty Summit in Philadelphia at the end of June, their hosts will be a “hate group.”At least that’s the claim of the Southern Poverty Law Center (SPLC), a far-left political organization that is drawing scorn for labeling Moms for Liberty and other parental rights organizations as “extremist organizations.”  The SPLC even includes them on the same “hate map” as neo-Nazis and the Ku Klux Klan.Another GOP candidate, entrepreneur Vivek Ramaswamy, just held a town hall in New Hampshire with Moms for Liberty co-founder Tiffany Justice. Like many SPLC critics, he dismissed the attack as “a farce.”“The SPLC is a tentacle of the woke-industrial complex,” Ramaswamy said. “I’m proud to be the first candidate to sign the Moms for Liberty Parent Pledge.”While often presented in media reports as a neutral authority on hate crimes, the SPLC makes no secret of its left-of-center politics. In its rep...

Put aside feelings and support son at games

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

Q. My ex and I broke up three years ago. He’s recently remarried, and he sent me an email saying that his wife will now be accompanying him to our 8-year-old son’s Little League baseball games. She has not been nice to me over the last year, and the thought of her going to the games makes me very uncomfortable. I’m thinking I’m going to back off attending my son’s games because I don’t want to deal with my ex and this woman.A. When you have had a history of run-ins with your ex and his partner, it’s easy to understand why you predict the worst. However, you have to remember who is really hurting when you spend a lot of time anticipating a negative outcome: you!Agonizing about what may happen simply keeps you upset and really has no effect on your ex. He has moved on.Here’s where applying the 10 Rules of Good Ex-Etiquette for Parents comes into play. They are rules to live by that allow you to take the everyday headbutting and turn it into a more positive experience. (You...

Local stages boast a bounty of summer theater delights

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

This summer theater season features military commanders – both cute and terrifying. It will have romances – both cute and silly. It will have blood lust and old fashioned love, cults of personality and cults of plants, and loads of explorations on how and why societies go wrong. From dance to Shakespeare to “Do-Re-Mi,” Massachusetts summer stages have so much to offer.“Rooted,” the Lyric Stage, now through June 25We’ve all done it. Accidentally start a cult, that is. Emery Harris is a loner living in a treehouse with her plants. Emery’s only contact to the outside world is her sister, Hazel, and her plant-centric YouTube channel. But when Emery’s channel goes viral and the citizens of her small town come to view her as a botanical messiah, she is forced to confront the public. Lyricstage.com“Private Lives,” Gloucester Stage, Gloucester, now through June 25Noël Coward’s 1930 play begins with ex-husband and wife discovering they picked the same French hotel to honeymoon with their new...

Dear Abby: BF has zero plans for financial future

Published Sun, 16 Feb 2025 16:25:15 GMT

Dear Abby: My husband died three years ago, and I met someone shortly after. This man is kind and loving, and he treats me well. He happily moved with me to another state to be near my family. I’m 67, and he is 63. I’m retired, and hopefully have enough to live on for the rest of my life, although as everyone knows, anything can happen.My concern is that this man gives his two children so much money every month that there’s none left over to help with any of our household expenses. He knows he will have to wean them off financially before he retires. I’m loath to ask him to stop, because I don’t want to lose him over this issue. However, I didn’t budget having to support him for the rest of my life.He hasn’t saved any money for his retirement. When I’ve asked why he sends them all his money, he says that when he and their mom divorced, it upset them and he feels guilty (it has been 18 years!), or when he gets old and senile, they’...